Dear Old Guy welcomes letters on all subjects, including love, marriage, child rearing, even basic plumbing and medical advice. What he doesn’t know, he is happy to make up. After all, he’s just an opinionated Old Guy.

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Dear Old Guy,

My husband and I recently found out that the baby we are expecting this summer is going to be born intellectually disabled. It may be pretty severe. It has taken a while for us to accept the fact but we are going forward. My question, our question is, how do we share this with friends and family?

              Signed, No matter what

Dear No Matter,

Wow, I admire you guys. I am sure you had your moments of doubt. At this point I would only share the news with the people or family closest to you and of course any other children you have… in an age appropriate way. The attention you ill be giving the newcomer is going to take a toll on siblings so get them prepared, on board and excited.

As to anyone else in that second tier group, there is no need for them to be told anything at this point. It will just perpetuate gossip, rumor, judgment and second guessing. Would anyone out there care to weigh in? Best to you and the new family member. —O.G.

Dear Old Guy,

My preteen daughter is getting into some pretty offensive music. She has been raised in a cultured manner but I guess the peer pressure is too great. How do I get her to stop listening to this stuff at least in our house?

              Signed, Ouch my ears

Dear Ouch,

Believe it or not when I was a kid the Beatles were considered crap. When I became a father I thought my kid’s music was crap and now they think their kid’s music is crap. Remember sit-coms from the 60s and 70s? They were crap but by today’s standards they seem classic… even Three’s Company. No. That’s still crap.

I think as long as your youngster still expresses an interest in a variety of musical tastes you have nothing to fear. Try listening. You don’t have to like the music, just understand it a bit. Much better than driving a wedge between you and your daughter. —O.G.

Dear Old Guy,

My husband and I have been arguing about his collection of dirty magazines since before we were married. Now our son is 12 and I have found some of my husband’s stash in his room.  My husband say’s it’s nothing but I am very upset. What would you do?

        Signed, Yech

Dear Yech,

Gee whiz. Your problem goes way back. Of course your husband thinks this is OK. He probably stole his first magazine from his dad. Apparently you think your husband turned out OK or you wouldn’t have married him. Of course, I’m kidding. I have a feeling you had second thoughts on your wedding day… but that’s not what you wrote about. It’s time to sit your son down and share your feelings about porn. The lad needs another perspective. I wish someone had talked to me. I didn’t find out until my honeymoon that real women don’t have staples. —O.G.